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That Heavy Load on your Back How to Begin Unloading your Backlog of Unresolved Feelings I couldn’t begin to tell you the number of times I have encouraged clients or friends to “stay with” their feelings or sensations in their bodies as a means to move through and...

The Usefulness of Pain Pain Provides the Energy and Courage Necessary for Transformation My client: It's funny how major fear can help you overcome your phobias! There’s a lot of wisdom in your statement.  The survival strategies of a difficult childhood, mostly...

Letter to a Depressed Client Non-ordinary Advice for When Positive Thinking Isn't Working I suspect that the fact that I have not heard back from you since our last session means that you are still quite depressed. I know that is a painful place to be. Your best...

Five Ways to Ease Your Fears about Money At least 80% of all ailments are caused or worsened by anxiety. Practice these methods to ease your fears, calm your mind, improve your health, and stimulate more creative problem-solving. Choose Your Thoughts "If you hang...

Where's My Teacher? Making Sense of the Search for a Path and Trustworthy Teacher Recently, I had a stimulating email conversation with M.C., a thoughtful young man from Australia.  I think his questions are shared by many of you. So, with his permission, I share our...

You Can be Right..or You Can Have a Relationship Where is Your Highest Loyalty? Loyalty! It's a high virtue, right? Well, of course it all depends on what we are loyal to. If you grew up in an alcoholic or some other variety of dysfunctional family, or if you suffered...

What's Addiction Got to do with PTSD Q & A Question: When someone says they are addicted to some substance, etc, or that they feel out of their body, is that the same thing as PTSD? Paul: Addictions and the pain underneath them are almost always related to some...

How the Monsoon Rains Came to Taos A Love Story by Paul Chubbuck After my big push this past month to get my free downloadable eBook finished (learn more here), I can't think about any healing topics this week. However, from time immemorial, our ancestors, who had no...

The Rapture We have another chance to choose The experience of unresolved trauma can be a kind of personal hell, with all manner of seemingly endless suffering and torture.  In such cases, our minds are often not our best friends, haranging us day and night about the...

The Restoration of Magic Noticing magic and miracles can open your heart If you haven't found something strange during the day, it hasn't been much of a day. Physicist John Wheeler In Colorado, the Rocky Mountains do not begin gradually with rolling knolls, larger...

Do your healing work, get more sex! The Healing Journey is sometimes chaotic, but it has Huge Rewards. I made a colleague laugh this morning when he told me he didn't have full registrations for the workshop he's offering this weekend (and he does excellent work). I...

I Asked! Where's my answer? 4 steps to getting answers you can trust The old saying goes, "when the student is ready, the teacher will appear."  But how do you get ready? Most of us have pressing questions around troublesome life issues or unpleasant patterns.  "Why...

How Will You Feed Your Soul Today? What practices will bring you what you long for? When it comes to practices, I have been as stubborn as anyone, finding difficulty meditating or doing the same thing every day at the same time. I remember around 20 years ago when...

The Power of Reframing It's all in how you look at it. Most of us are past masters at a skill we don't even know we have, namely, running the data from our life through our pre-existing "filters" to verify what we already expected.  It's a constant process for each of...