Sometimes people hit a wall.
Things that used to be satisfying, like career, relationships, or hobbies, just don’t light them up the way they did when they were younger.
All the sleepless hours worrying about “why?” just lead to a useless cycle, something like this…
- What’s wrong with me?
- I’ve never really recovered from my last relationship.
- I shouldn’t still be angry and sad over what happened all those years ago.
- Maybe I’m more messed up than I realized.
- What’s wrong with me?
Mid-life crises don’t wait till age 50!
When people in the middle years, aged 30-65, hit the wall of stuck-ness or discouragement in energy, attitude, health, relationships, or career, they are exhausted from repeating the same unsatisfying and unhealthy patterns, but they can’t seem to stop or change.
These mid-lifers feel stressed, ashamed, shut-down, or depressed and don’t feel nearly enough love, joy, optimism, passion, or creativity.
These people are not losers, though they sometimes feel that way. They’ve had some career and relationship satisfaction and other accomplishments to their credit. But lately, all that seems distant, elusive, and meaningless. They wonder, “Was I ever really happy or just busy distracting from my unhappiness?”
What do these people have in common?
- They all suffered neglect, dysfunctional, or abusive experiences, often in childhood. This caused distress, often called PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder).
- They were mostly unaware that past experiences were preventing them from getting what they wanted today.
- They made big, positive changes in less than a year through Somatic Experiencing’s proven approach, which got to the core of their distress.
Talk is not cheap!
Most therapies rely on talk, theories, and good intentions. But our culture already encourages us to be too much “in our heads.” More words are not going to help change old trauma-based patterns.
The problem is not a psychological one and it isn’t because of a bad attitude. When a person has been emotionally wounded, traumatized, abandoned, or neglected, their symptoms are a physiological reaction of their nervous system to the shock of the trauma (PTSD).
Fear, anger, and self-protective armor are hidden deep in the body
Somatic Experiencing, a body-centered psychotherapy, is based on a new scientific understanding of how our nervous system works – how it stores trauma, and how it can release it.
I offer my clients a “map of the territory” gained not only from professional studies and 20 years of experience as a psychotherapist, but also from my own healing journey from a very challenging childhood.
Using Somatic Experiencing, I help clients release grief, anger, shame, and frozenness from their bodies, so they can safely rediscover good feelings, instincts, and trust in their own wisdom.
What can you hope for?
Some human pain is inevitable, but years of suffering from unresolved trauma is not. Review my actual clients’ stories and statements.
You don’t have to spend years in therapy wondering what’s wrong with you. You’ll notice some relief from anxiety and hopelessness quickly. That will provide optimism and energy to stick to it long enough for the big, lasting changes.
Hello, I’m Paul Chubbuck
Psychotherapist, MS, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner
Many years ago, I realized I was in a repeating pattern of disappointment and hurt in intimate relationships. It was never what I wanted, but it kept happening anyway. I searched earnestly for answers — from self-help books, 12-step programs, therapy, mentors, mythology, poetry, and spirituality. What helped me the most to quit getting hurt and quit hurting others was Somatic Experiencing, the work I now offer.
How Can I Help You?
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